Helping Kids Be More Responsible for Their Actions

From an early age, children are told they have to follow rules. They are told when they have to go to school, how they need to behave in school, when they have to go to bed, when they have to get up, the types of food they get to eat, etc. As a result, they may become upset that they’ve been bound by rules that have been dictated to them and they’ve had no say over. Children may see the rules as being for their parents’ benefit and not their own.

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As they grow into their teenage years, they may believe that breaking the rules is a way to break free of their parents’ control and assert their own identities. In this way, teenagers may see their acts of defiance as only impacting the rules their parents have established. They may not see the potential consequences of their actions in terms of the harm they may be doing to themselves. It is only after the teenager has become addicted to nicotine or starts failing classes in school that it becomes clear there were good reasons for the boundaries that had been set in place.

A possible solution

The question becomes, what can be done about this? How do we get through to adolescents and teens so they understand there are reasons for the boundaries that we set for them? How do we get them to take those rules seriously and how do they resist the temptations to break them?

What if, as young children, they had the rules discussed with them and they felt they had a say in the rules of the household? Most parents let children know what is expected of them. What if, when they were young, they felt empowered to discuss the rules and be able to talk about them? In this way, they would hopefully feel that they had a say in the rules of the house and as a result would have some desire to live within them.

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